What is a Divorce Coach?

Do you have a divorce plan?

What a Divorce Coach Can Do for You:

Personal issues – A Divorce Coach can help you…

  • honor your feelings of grief and anger over the many losses that result from your divorce.
  • find appropriate sources of emotional support to replace ones you have lost.
  • learn how to reduce your anxiety and stress as you make decisions about your future.
  • manage the strong emotions that are a natural part of this process.
  • understand the other partner’s outlook on an issue even if you don’t agree with it.
  • identify what each of you does that triggers the other to react negatively.

    Legal process issues – A Divorce Coach can help you…

  • interview and hire an attorney who is best suited for your case and your specific needs.
  • explain and discuss the many process options (collaborative law, mediation, private mediation, litigation) available from a perspective that doesn’t seem as intimidating as when you hear them from an attorney.
  • clarify and articulate to your spouse and attorney the personal goals and value you want reflected in the divorce settlement.
  • stay accountable to the goals you have set for your future and that of your children.
  • stay focused on working toward win-win solutions, both short and long term.

    Co-parent issues – A coach can help you with…

  • learn how to communicate with your ex-spouse and now co-parent in the best interests of your children.
  • create a foundation for co-parenting that enables you to act in the best interests of your children
  • .negotiate terms of your co-parenting plan both during the divorce and in later years as needs change.

Divorce is more than a legal process. Divorce is a major life transition with many complexities. Couples don’t know – what they don’t know – and they are called to make major decisions that affect themselves and their children now and into their future. However, people are not usually functioning at their best wise-minded selves during divorce. Very strong divorce emotions (anger, hurt, disappointment, regret…) influence their decision making abilities. The fears such as – will I have enough money to live, will my kids be ok, how do I reconcile a divorce with my faith beliefs, will I ever find anyone to love me and the fears keep on coming. If that isn’t enough, well-intended family and friends begin offering advice about what you should or shouldn’t do – who you should or shouldn’t hire. These people are more than qualified to love and support you but not qualified to help you navigate your divorce process.
A Divorce Coach helps a client do just that – navigate your divorce process, thus reducing stress, anxiety and feelings of aloneness in this foreign territory of divorce.

 

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