They say time heals-and I think this can be true-but only if that’s truly the goal here: healing. Time grows the seeds that are planted, watered, and fertilized. Plant beauty, grow beauty. Plant thorns, grow thorns. Time will allow for either…Bitterness, resentment, and anger have no place in a heart as beautiful as yours. (TerKeurst, page 68)
You have been betrayed, hurt, abandoned….yes, no question some or all of these things are true BUT, what if you can write a different sentence in your story of divorce?
We can when we:
Speak with honor in the midst of being dishonored
Speak with peace in the midst of being threatened
Speak of good things in the midst of a bad situation
Be obedient to, trust and believe God and let Him take control of our contrary feelings
People who care more about being right than ending right prove just how wrong they were all along. (TerKeurst, page 68)
I have read this book and it spoke to me with every page and chapter, now I am leading a weekly bible study using the DVD and study guide with this book….during the study I am discovering that every time I felt rejected before and during my divorce I could have rewritten the timeline if I had applied these things to my emotions.
This is one of the reasons I have been lead to develop a pathway for others in all seasons of divorce to come along side and be your “thinking partner” helping to answer questions you didn’t know to ask.
A Divorce Coach is your “thinking” partner –helping you navigate the unknowns of divorce while creating a road map to resolution.
I know this isn’t the right season but still thought it was worth sharing, be encouraged!
“Holding on is believing that there’s only a past; letting go is knowing that there’s a future.” Daphne Rose Kingma
Fall season is absolutely beautiful here in the Carolinas where I live. I always look forward to seeing the changing season with vibrant and intense colors as the leaves change into some of the most beautiful scenery imaginable. These leaves don’t hang around long though and over a short time the trees begin letting go of their beautiful colors and leaves. I wish they would stay around longer, but God so wisely created the trees – he knew the old would have to fall for the new to grow.
Divorce certainly leaves you with no shortage of emotions, attitudes, hurt and disappointments. For most people letting go of these isn’t easy. However, holding onto the negative parts of the divorce will not allow you room to grow new hopes and memories.
Today as you celebrate Fall and watch some leaves fall to the ground, I encourage you to think about what has taken up roots in your soul that are no longer serving you well. What could come into your life if you begin letting go of (you fill in the blank) and choose to open your schedule, your attitude, your heart, your mind and your eyes. Remember, you have to let go of some things to make room for the new life you are building.
Isaiah 43: 18-19 says “Remember not the former things, nor consider the things of old. Behold, I am doing a new thing; now it springs forth, do you not perceive it? I will make a way in the wilderness and rivers in the desert.”